A Reddit drama has erupted as a mother of a newborn says she is “going crazy” over her husband’s choices and their current family challenges, prompting a clinical psychologist to be contacted for advice.
“Gave birth six weeks ago, and it is been rough,” the mother wrote in a Reddit post.
“Recovering from emergency C-section, plus they think I may have a liver pancreas issue as I keep being unwell — plus my mental health took a dive, let alone newborn care!”
A Reddit drama has erupted as a mother of a newborn says she is “going crazy” over her husband’s choices and their current family challenges, prompting a clinical psychologist to be contacted for advice.
“Gave birth six weeks ago, and it is been rough,” the mother wrote in a Reddit post.
“Recovering from emergency C-section, plus they think I may have a liver pancreas issue as I keep being unwell — plus my mental health took a dive, let alone newborn care!”
“His guy friends invited him to a BBQ tonight and it would literally be him leaving just as [our] 6-week-old kicks off,” said the parent.
“So I said, ‘Please do not leave. I need assistance at that time. Keeping in mind that his friends meet on a regular basis, and if he does not do it today, it will not be for a year,” she added.
The husband responded, “Babies cry, just cope, I am going,” the young mother wrote.
She stated, “I tried to point out that I know they cry, but it is not about coping, and I felt it was very selfish that he chose his friends over his family. I even said that if it happened again, I would not mind.”
Her husband, she explained, has “gone back to work, and I am coping with that — it is just literally that time of night that is tricky.”
But “he kept saying that I was ‘controlling’ by not allowing him to see his friends.” It became a really bad moment for us, and I was devastated to be called ‘controlling.’ I do not think that is what I am trying to do, and he simply could not see it from my perspective.”
The mother stated that the next day, her husband apologized.
According to him, “he was completely wrong and [he] could see how bad things would be if he went and said he would not go.”
Nonetheless, she said, “fast forward to today — where he tells me he is going and if I can not cope, he will take the baby and drop her at his [mom’s] to look after.”
The problem, the young mother wrote, is that his mother “is not close by, does not know everything we are trying colic-wise, like the meds, etc., and would have to deal with a screaming baby. Also, my baby doesn’t know her and is only 6 weeks, so all round, not a good solution.”
She stated that her husband “also knows things are a bit tricky between me and his mom, so I feel like this was a little manipulative on his part…. He knows I would never choose his mother as an option, but he can now say he has found a place where he can go.
The distraught young mother wrote, “I feel like I am going crazy here.” I just want some support from my partner during the most difficult time of the day with our baby!”
As other Reddit users shared their reactions and comments, Fox News Digital sought insight from a clinical psychologist in California.
One top-rated commenter wrote, “You are welcome to attend your BBQ tonight. Tomorrow night, you will stay at home with the baby and child while I go out and have a break.’ “I can guarantee he will not agree to that,” the user continued.
“The comment ‘babies cry, just cope’ would have him sleeping in his mother’s house if he was my husband,” stated another individual.
Another user on the platform commented, “I am sorry, but your husband is completely unreasonable. We have two kids. We have agreed that if either of us goes out, it will be after 7 p.m., once we have both gone to bed. This means we can both have a social life without disrupting the other’s.”
The individual added, “It is not much to ask him to make a few sacrifices… Especially since he can go out a little later.
Another commenter was far more concerned about the situation. “This is absolutely infuriating to read. I am really sorry he is treating you like this after everything you have been through.”
“If I had a partner who carried my child for 9 months, had major abdominal surgery and suffered ongoing health issues to ensure the safe delivery of my child — I would be worshipping the ground they walked on for the rest of my life.”
The same individual continued: “He is being incredibly selfish, invalidating your feelings and there is just no excuse for this other than pure selfishness.”
Another person expressed a more nuanced reaction.
“I can see it is difficult for fathers, too, and I do not blame him for wanting a break. But that is precisely why he needs to stay. He cannot expect you to go through that alone! He can find other opportunities to recharge and meet his friends, but not during rush hour.”